Alright, I’m going to touch on a subject that’s not easy for a lot of us to discuss. And if I’m being honest, it’s a conversation that while hard to have, happens a lot more than I’d like with my clients these days. Okay, here it is, no permission is needed. None. You do not need permission to make yourself a priority.
Every day as a wellness coach, I work with amazing women. But I cannot tell you how many put themselves last on their to-do list. Maybe you’re one of them? I sure used to be.
Now, before I go on, please know this has been on my heart for a long time. I have had this conversation with women in every season of life. It’s not an easy one to have. But my friend, if this is the season you’re in and you’re unhappy with how you feel in your skin, then keep reading.
Gut Check
The day you ask someone else for permission to take care of You, is the day you need to take a step back and gut check.
Because if you’re asking for permission, you’re not ready to make the changes in your lifestyle that will give you the results, the confidence, or the fulfillment you desire. Trust me, I was there just six short years ago. Completely lost on my journey. Turning to everyone by myself for the answers.
So, I need you to stop and ask yourself Why? Why is up to anyone but you to call the shots where your health and happiness are concerned?
Clear the Air
Before we proceed, let’s just chat about this whole permission thing. This may involve a spouse, a parent, your boss, or even your kids. It involves people you trust. It can also involve people who do not understand your goals, the way you feel on the inside or what you envision for yourself. So they give you the “permission” or the answer that they think you want to hear. Which may not have anything at all to do with your wellness goals or personal growth.
Why do they do that? It’s not because they are trying to sabotage your goals (at least it better not be) – it’s because they don’t actually know what you want, so they can’t properly support you.
You MUST clear the air and get so fundamental about how you feel and what you want to accomplish that they are inspired by where you are going and that “permission” become unconditional support.
Responsibility Lies Within
I realize that this may not sit well for some people. But I don’t believe that it’s up to anyone but us to be responsible for our wellness goals. I’m the one who has to make time to workout. I am responsible for the food I eat everyday, which means if I want to eat healthy I need to buy groceries (or be very specific with my husband) and do the meal prep. I’m the one who needs to find time to quite my mind.
You get the picture. If you ask for someone’s permission to do these things, then they have a say in what it is you do for self-care, the amount of time you exercise, the food that’s in the fridge.
I want to empower you to stop asking for permission from everyone else, and GIVE yourself the permission to start the journey you’re meant to be on! Share your intentions with your support system. It may be a hard conversation with your husband, but I promise, once he knows your goals and see how happy and energized you are when you get those glorious 30 minutes of exercise in. Or how grounded you are after a massage or coffee with friends.
Join the Community!
Now you’re ready, oh my gosh, I’m so pumped for you! I get that it can be hard to pull a support community together to keep you going or help pick you up when you get off track. My Fit & Wellness Community is ready to give you that push you need! Hop over and join us anytime!
xo, Tiff